I work in a private school and yes the SENCO role can be VERY lonely. Moreover, it is not driven by anything happening IN the school – unless you have a strong leader who walks with you and helps define the role. You get no feed back from anyone, everyone assumes you know what you’re doing. But in actual fact it’s all your own initiative. So I found that the Sendco meeting I went to over summer, which we paid for, was a hugely welcome breath of fresh air – it reassured me that I was on track, I saw I had ideas people took on board (AND vice versa) and that what I was doing on a daily, weekly, monthly, annual basis was absolutely in sync with other SENCO roles. And that my self doubts and grey areas were the same as other sendcos . So yes to meetings. But maybe not so frequently.